Breaking the Binary: Embracing Playfulness in Gender Exploration

 

 Let’s start with a truth that should be obvious but somehow isn’t:

Gender was never meant to be a standardized test. There’s no passing grade, no final exam, no neat little certification that declares, Congrats! You’ve officially figured it all out!

And yet, so many of us—whether we grew up ...

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Who Do We Mourn First? The Answer Says More Than We Think

 

I almost let this one go. Almost let myself off the hook.

But if I say I believe in intersectionality—not just as a concept, but as a practice—then I have to apply it here, too.


 

When I Spoke Up Instantly—and When I Hesitated

 

When news broke about Nex Benedict, I posted almost immediate...

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A Note on Hate Comments & Online Rhetoric

***Content Warning***

This piece will discuss the themes of transphobic hate comments. Reader discretion advised.


I want to start by acknowledging that I’m a clinician, not a social media influencer or marketing expert—I never envisioned myself as one of those Instagram clinicians. That contex...

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Gender Reveal Parties: Insights from a Trans Expectant Father

 

I’ve long judged the idea of gender reveal parties. Especially as they’ve gotten more popular, elaborate, and wildfire-inducing....(seriously, how awful is that?) 

 

Not to mention, I’m a specialist in the mental health of gender diverse people, so I’ve got a well-informed perspective on the pr...

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How Gender-Affirming Care Helps Save Lives

 

The Impact of Gender-Affirming Care on Youth Mental Health

 

Studies illustrate the significant positive impact of gender-affirming care on the mental health and overall well-being of gender diverse, transgender, and nonbinary children and adolescents. Offering opportunities and guidance to the...

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Understanding Aromantic and Asexual Identities in the LGBTQIA+ Community sexuality

 

Aromantic and Asexual Definitions

 Aromantic and asexual identities represent important facets of the LGBTQIA+ spectrum. Aromantic individuals, often abbreviated as "aro," are those who may experience sexual attraction but are on a spectrum of not experiencing romantic attraction. Conversely, as...

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Gender-Affirming Psychiatry gender-affirming care psychiatry

 

I love practicing psychiatry.

 

It’s a fascinating and humbling puzzle to solve: humans are endlessly complex, and psychotropic medications—these little molecules available to us to treat everything from mild anxiety to severe psychosis—are blunt, imperfect, and sometimes life-changing. I’ll ne...

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When I Played Women's Sports in the NCAA, I Would've Opposed Trans Women. But Here Are 7 Reasons Why I Would've Been Wrong. anti-trans legislation inclusion in sports sports transgender women

I was so heartened to see coach Dawn Staley recently issue her support for trans women in sports. I’m a trans man, and I specialize in trans mental health and LGBTQ+ inclusion. But in my younger days, I was a competitive athlete–a southpaw pitcher in women’s fastpitch softball. I was a high-school s...

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The Best Time to Learn About Trans-Affirming Care Was Yesterday

If you’ve been paying even cursory attention to the news for the past couple of years, you know it’s not a good time to be a gender-expansive child or adolescent – or a parent of one.

(For more context on my thoughts surrounding attacks on gender-affirming care for adolescents, check out this post....

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"It's Just Such a Big Decision": What Our Fears About Detransition are Really About

Public discourse about access to gender-affirming care has evolved rapidly in just the past 10 years. As more trans and nonbinary Americans share their stories, a political debate has emerged. And as with many political debates, thoughtful and nuanced conversations have given way to fear-based talki...

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Recent NYT Op-Ed Dishes Transphobia: Fashioned for a Liberal Palate

Pamela Paul’s newest opinion piece in the New York Times about trans kids is yet another of a series of similar articles that perpetuates myths, and under the guise of nuance and reason, fans the flames of an increasingly harmful discourse. Its argument is nothing new. Paul ultimately grounds her th...

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Trans in a Red State? Here are 5 Steps You Can Take Right Now

These times are unprecedented, and access to best practice healthcare is a moving target. From my knowledge and experience as a transgender PMHNP, here are some steps you or your family could take to protect your access to care.


 

1: If you still have access to your gender-affirming

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