Practice with Embodied Confidence
Gender Affirming Care Training for Virtuosic Healers
You do complicated work---
--and see the world in complex ways.
If you were a musician, we’re talking Chopin.
You play intricate compositions, and you handle nuanced, layered work with a grace that’s unmistakably yours.
But with trans and nonbinary clients, it’s Chopsticks all over again.
You find yourself having to revisit the basic building blocks of your craft.
(FYI, I know you didn’t go into massive student loan debt to practice pronouns grammar school-style…)
And it’s frustrating to know you’ve moved so far beyond this in every other area—but here, your hands fumble over keys that seem foreign.
The music isn’t in you, no matter how much you long to hear it.
You’re crystal clear on this, though–you DON’T want to be the provider who “doesn’t get it.”
You’ve seen those “affirming” colleagues…tone-deaf as they repeatedly misgender, misunderstand, and don’t self-correct.
All the while, they:
- Keep that pride flag on their website
- List themselves as an LGBTQ+ affirming provider
- And constantly respond to requests for a “trans-affirming clinician” with all the confidence in the world.
It. Makes. You. Furious.
I know there's an ocean between you and them, virtuoso—
they’d confuse Beethoven with the Backstreet Boys, for god’s sake.
But…..
Even though you can feel the difference, you can’t claim it. You don’t have the chops yet, and you don’t want to cause harm.
And.
In quiet, honest moments, you admit—it’s tedious to go back to basics, and feel this vulnerable.
But that feels like the thing you aren’t supposed to say out loud…so you push it down, and keep feeling like a fraud.
Well, you’re probably not a fraud. And you’re definitely not alone.
But I’ll level with you. Getting to the level YOU want to be at?
A “certification” from the CEU superstore sending pamphlets in the mail won’t cut it.
...and deep down, you know that too.
Here’s the truth.
Trans affirming care, like every other skill set you’ve mastered, requires the perfect blend of knowledge, practice, and guidance to help you move beyond the technical skills, and settle into an intuitive flow.